A Ratio to Remember: 5 to 1
Psychologist John Gottman, PhD, a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, says to make marriage work you only need to know this ratio: 5 to 1. For every negative interaction—a complaint, a disagreement, an outright argument—there must be at least five positive interactions—a compliment, a smile, a touch, a shared laugh, a favor, a reference to a happy event, an expression of gratitude, and so on. By offering simple acts of kindness, a couple creates what Gottman calls "emotional money in the bank," currency they need to repair the relationship after a conflict. Simple ways to go positive: Kiss hello and good-bye, thank each other, be loyal, and let the little things go.
from Health.com
-Pamela
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